From babies to teenagers: 6 parenting secrets to inculcate confidence in your child

Confident child

Imagine a situation where your toddler is trying to put on his T-shirt; he is wearing it incorrectly.  What will you do?  Either you will immediately go and put it on correctly or allow him to put it on in the wrong manner, appreciate his efforts, and then teach him the correct method.  By following the second method, you are building up your child’s confidence.

Every parent wants to raise a confident kid. A confident kid grows up into a confident individual, who can face the world, talk to people, tackle any kind of situation and be self-reliant.

I have two children; one is an introvert and the other an extrovert.  I used to worry about my introvert child.  I thought that because he interacted less or was less talkative he might not be confident.  But I was wrong.  The basic nature of the child has got nothing to do with confidence.  Even the most outgoing person can be under-confident from within!

Some pointers on raising a confident child, which I believe might be useful:

1. Since the time a baby starts achieving milestones, let him learn on his own.

Often parents fear that the baby might hurt, but trust me, babies are the most resilient creatures on earth! Have you seen the victorious smile on a baby’s face once he learns to roll over, walk, stand or sit?  That’s his confidence.

2. When the child commits mistakes, rectify him instead of rebuking him.

To err is human. We all make mistakes. The child should be asked to learn from his mistakes. Sometimes parents scold the kid, as they believe he will make the same mistake again otherwise. Let him try it again; the next time he will do the task better. This will instill confidence in him.

3. Encourage the child to pursue unknown things; encourage him to take up challenges.

Never demotivate him by saying, “You can’t do this!”  Always say, “At least give it a shot, no matter what the outcome is!”  This will encourage him to take risks in life.

4. Never shout or abuse him in front of his friends, relatives or publicly.

This makes a huge impact on his confidence.  Always talk to him when at home and try to keep the tone normal.

5. Never compare him with anyone!

Appreciate and accept your child the way he is! Both my kids are opposites of each other nature-wise, yet they have their own strengths and weaknesses and I love them with those qualities.

6. Teach your child to be happy with whatever he has.

Sometimes peer pressure causes confidence issues in children.  Constant comparison of looks, social status, money, belongings etc. causes an inferiority complex in the children.  Always tell your child, “What you have, others might not have. So be happy with it.”

To instill confidence in our children, we need to be confident as parents first. Children learn from us, so what we preach to them should be implemented by us as well!

A confident child can cross any obstacle and be happy in life always.