Staying at home after a baby

staying at home after baby

Staying at home after the baby:

There is nothing more beneficial than continuous parental care for a child. It brings the parents closer to the child and allows you as a mother to take charge of your child’s life and shape it as you would like to.

While you have always been a working woman, there are many reasons why you may want to stay at home to care for your child – prioritizing motherhood, unavailability of caregivers and lack of funds for childcare being some of them. And there is nothing more fulfilling than being with your child physically and emotionally and supervising their life. But that’s easier said than done, because it does pinch a bit to leave your rewarding career, something that you really worked hard for, to stay at home.

These are some of the things you are likely to feel once you decide to stay at home

  • Loss of identity. If a career is how you identified yourself, then you are likely to feel this loss, as you are now going to be known as someone’s mom for most of your life. Funnily you are also going to be referring to another mom similarly.
  • Blow to your self-esteem. Being used to constant feedback from your colleagues and boss can leave you feeling lost as you can’t expect feedback from your little one.Every time you feel that twinge of guilt for leaving behind your career, look at your little one.

Tips for getting mentally prepared to stay at home

  • Taking charge of your baby’s life is not an easy job either. It involves constant contact and supreme observation skills on your part.
  • It is not the end of the career road. In today’s day and age, companies are far more sensitive to a woman’s need to take a break in her career for childcare. You can always return to work once your child is old enough to care for themselves.
  • Staying at home to care for your little one give your personal life a little flexibility – a little, mind you, not much – to catch up with your family and also take charge of the household. This may not be monetarily rewarding, but it does give a sense of fulfilment.
  • You may have already tried working by leaving the baby at home and it has left you with a feeling of burning out.Here’s how you need to prepare yourself mentally when you decide to stay at home for your little one:
  • Don’t let go of all the help you had when you were working. Remember you still need help taking care of the home.
  • Just because you are at home all day doesn’t mean you shouldn’t take care of your looks. Try to be as well dressed as possible around your child, and family. It gives you a sense of freshness and boosts your self-esteem.
  • Relax. Just because you are at home doesn’t mean that you are expected to raise a perfect child. There is nothing like a “perfect child”. Instead, enjoy your little one’s childhood as much as you can.
  • Even if you are at home, don’t stay behind in your professional skills. Stay in touch with your professional skills – you might just need to use them with your child.
  • While you are at home, don’t just stay at home. Venture out with your child and build a mommy network, a support system to communicate with and exchange notes with.

Remember “it takes a village to raise a child”. You may never know how some idea might just click with you.

Choosing to stay at home after a baby

When you do decide to stay at home, prepare yourself to be at the receiving end of some stupid and hurtful comments. Therefore, hold onto your pride and be confident of having taken the right decision!