Dealing with an unsupportive husband/family during pregnancy

Unsupportive family during pregnancy

It may be hard to deal with a pregnancy when your family is unsupportive of it. This may be because of one of the following reasons:

  • You’re having the baby out of wedlock
  • You may have gotten pregnant accidentally at an inopportune moment – in family or career
  • You got pregnant before someone else (your elder sister-in-law for instance)
  • You’re going to be a single mom
  • This is your 3rd/4th baby
  • You’re not financially secure to provide for all your children

How to deal with an unsupportive family during pregnancy

Whatever the reason may be, if you have a supportive partner, half your work is done. That’s all counts. You will need to make some adjustments in your life/finances to make sure that you can handle everything the pregnancy (and the baby) throws at you. Here’s how to deal with it –

  • Tell your family that while their moral support is important to you, their moral policing isn’t.
  • Explain that this is your responsibility alone and that no one needs to take it personally except you.
  • Find a supportive network of friends and relatives who can sub for your family for your emotional needs.
  • Get things sorted at work to make sure you’re financially secure. Start saving today if you haven’t already.
  • Figure out a birth plan, maternity plan and a gynaecologist and hospital that works for you. Chalking down the details can relieve stress.

Your parenting abilities do not depend on other’s opinions or estimates of your capabilities. Make sure you’ve got a healthy, loving home and atmosphere to bring your baby into and you’ll learn the rest along the way. Enjoy your pregnancy with the support of those who understand you and your priorities.