How to deal with an unplanned pregnancy?

unplanned pregnancy

Sometimes you can be careful as ever and as Rachel in F.R.I.E.N.D.S says, one of those little guys just sneaks in. As a couple, your reaction to an unexpected pregnancy can be anything from happiness to shock, worry to fear. It all depends on what you may have planned for your life together.

The first thing you need to do is to talk with your partner about how having a baby is going to change your life. Discuss any issues such as:

  • Are both of you REALLY ready to have a child?
  • Do you have any health issues that may cause complications?
  • Do you need to make any financial or lifestyle changes to accommodate a baby?
  • Is motherhood going to affect your career? Do you plan to work after the baby?
  • Is there a good support system or are you on your own?
  • How is it going to affect your marriage?
  • What is it going to do to your time together? How are you going to split responsibilities?

Maybe you’re very positive about it or very wary.? It is very important for both of you to get on board with whatever decisions you make regarding the pregnancy and the baby.

How to proceed if you decide to terminate your unwanted pregnancy

Please make sure that both you and your partner are on the same page on this lest it become a sure point of contention in future. It is also very important to have support to help you in everything. Other than the physical issues with terminating a pregnancy, you could experience a torrent of emotions - relief, guilt, sorrow or maybe depression. If you’re religious, this could lead to some more mental trauma as well. Remember you’re not the only one who’s losing a baby. Be sure to discuss your partner’s feelings. Share your feelings together. If you’re still not okay in some time, consider a counsellor.

How to proceed if you decide to have your baby

Thankfully babies take 9 months to come out! It will give you ample time to think and prepare for the life-altering new changes your baby will bring. Pregnancy is a great way to bond with your partner too. Going for your prenatal appointments together, reading pregnancy material together and shopping can help you both feel and experience this new change in your lives.

This is also a great time to reconnect with family and friends and gather a support system to rally around you. Do remember to discuss issues that bother you, trivial as they may seem - with your partner or practitioner as may be appropriate. Try to reduce the stress in your life - take a step back from work to enjoy pregnancy if need be, surround yourself with positive people and thoughts. Enjoy your pregnancy!