Why women moan during sex (Listen up, husbands)

To all the men out there: Remember all those steamy scenes in movies where the man and woman are getting it on and the woman just moans like there’s no tomorrow? And ladies, we’re sure you’ve done it in bed too while you were having a romp in the sack with your man. But a woman moaning ain’t just a sign that she’s in sexual heaven, nope.

According to a study published in Archives of Sexual Behaviour, copulatory vocalisation by women is often not related to their orgasm, but the man’s. That’s right. Women moan (fake moan, rather) to hurry their partners up to climax. This study conducted with 71 sexually active women between the ages 18 and 48 revealed that 66% women moaned with the intent of speeding up their partner, whereas 87% did it as to make their partners feel better about themselves.

Ladies, you can’t lie about having done it anymore! While it may sound awful that women are just faking oohs and aahs to get their man to speed up and get there already, moaning can be used as a tool to actually make sex better.

Sex educator Patty Brisben told CNN, “Use moaning as a way of signalling that you are excited and things really are feeling good, not as a way to hide that they aren’t.” She adds, “Women are learning to take responsibility for their own sexual needs and wants in the bedroom. We need to take this one step further and give ourselves the permission to become teachers. Use vocalisation to teach your partner what feels good. It can help you say, ‘stop, go, yes, more please,’ without sounding like a traffic cop.”

We get it – vaginal orgasms are rare. But if your partner is trying really hard to make you feel good during foreplay or sex itself, you moaning can give him or her a signal that what you’re doing is working pretty well, so why not use it that way instead?

Curated from iDiva

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