Should you choose your child’s friends? Here is your answer!

As parents we all tend to want the best for our kids! You choose between cloth diapers and disposable diapers, between breastfeeding and formula feeding, between weaning and nursing him as long as he wished to, and the list is just endless. So, when it comes to choosing your kid’s friends, why should we parents shrug our shoulders?

Like any other parent I too want to raise a responsible child, and the company he chooses will definitely influence him to a large extent. So, being ‘picky’ when it comes to making friends is never a wrong thing, I feel. And I was reassured about this fact, earlier this month, when my four-year-old fearlessly uttered a bad word, which almost made me skip a heartbeat. After reassuring I heard it right, I asked him who taught him the word. ‘My friend’ he said in a very casual tone.

Now, there were only two ways: I could either tell him his language was inappropriate or I take the matter to his teachers and also let the other boy’s parents know what their son was doing in school. I obviously chose the former and let the matter rest.

Now that these conversations were a common topic of discussion in my mommy’s group, I was transported back to my college days when my friends played a pivotal role in my life. I remember hanging out with my friends for most part of the day and learnt a lot of lessons from each of them – all very important life lessons!

A perfect peer group is important in everything your child does- whether it is studying, playing or hanging out. So, why is it wrong for us to know who our child chooses to make friends with? As a mother I definitely would like to know who his friend is, his family background, his morals and values and more.

So when it came to whether I should influence my opinions on my kid, I firmly felt I must! In today’s times when kids are exposed to so much through social media and TV, it is only for his own safety that I will influence him with my choices (Without being too nosy!). Monitoring who they hang out with at schools, play dates, and tuitions will only help your kid find a ground of his own.  

As parents, let’s drop the charade! Let’s own up to being nosy and picky and choosy when it comes to our kid’s friends only to understand that we, as parents, are only worried about the ‘friends’ our children make. I do agree that we will not be able to shadow them all along, but a little more guidance and involvement will help them choose their friends wisely.


After all, it hurts more when they fall, than it actually hurts them!

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