IVF – The man-made answer to a lot of prayers

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You and your husband have finally decided to procreate. Immediately, anxiety takes over, you open Google and begin typing “how to get pregnant” or reach out to one of your friend that already has a baby or two. If you are not convinced you speak to your own mother or sister for more insight.

Then comes the phase when you are trying.

You wait until you are due for your next period secretly hoping you skip it. But there it is, prompt and in all glory. Disappointed, this time you are researching more, getting into the technical details and trying to figure out what terms like “ovulation” and how a “pee stick” functions. So this month you are waiting for those days and not just shooting in the dark unlike the last month. You try again and patiently wait until you are heart-broken by the timely arrival of your period.

Now you’ve reached your wits end and Google “best gynaec in the city”, after going through about 5 reviews on various websites you finalise on one doctor and make a nervous appointment. After meeting her you learn about the pre-natal pills and are given a set of blood tests to undergo. You rush to the diagnostic centre and pester them to give you the report in the next 2 hours. Once you have collected the report you head straight to your doctor again, this time she asks your husband to get a few tests done. Now he is worried too.  The time in between collecting his results and before meeting your doc, you happen to notice every child that there is in the world; children in malls, parks and even the ones begging on the streets! The doctor goes through the reports meticulously and breaks it to you about one of you being “infertile or incapable”. It doesn’t matter who it is. You are devastated and can’t stop weeping. Your husband attempts to comfort you but you are inconsolable and shattered from within.

Now you’ve reached a stage of desperation and helplessness and you get to your laptop and start typing yet again, you are immediately withdrawn and hit backspace several times before you complete and read what you have typed. It’s not what you want, it’s a shame and it reads

IVF

That dreaded word your mom warned you about, the three alphabets that literally translate into “test-tube baby” and you never thought you would have to know what the abbreviation stood for.  However, this opens up pages and pages on google; you begin reading and figure that there is hope.

test tube baby | IVF - ZenParent

In vitro fertilization or fertilisation (IVF) is a process by which an egg is fertilised by sperm outside the body: in vitro (“in glass”). The process involves monitoring and stimulating a woman’s ovulatory process, removing an ovum or ova (egg or eggs) from the woman’s ovaries and letting sperm fertilise them in a liquid in a laboratory. The fertilised egg (zygote) is cultured for 2–6 days in a growth medium and is then implanted in the same or another woman’s uterus, with the intention of establishing a successful pregnancy.

You are surprised to know the success rates and that a lot of babies are born this way; everywhere in the world. It’s time we wake up and understand that “infertility” is no one’s fault. Look at how the world has changed so much ever since you were 12! Our sedentary lifestyle, eating habits, adulteration in food products and global warming in general cause us a lot of ill effects and some of that could lead to health problems. PCOD, irregular menstruation, fibroids and high levels of thyroid in women are likely causes, whereas low sperm count, low testosterone levels and hormonal imbalance in men could possibly cause infertility.

This story first appeared on scarymommy.com; Putting my eggs in one basket

Yes, we do have expectations like conceiving naturally, then giving birth naturally followed by being able to breastfeed like our mothers were able to. But it’s time that we open up to other alternatives owing to situations that are beyond our control. You can’t regulate every single thing in your life, accept it and be more accepting towards others as well.

Here are some myths about IVF that most people have.

As narrated by Avantika* who struggled for about 3 years  before giving birth to a beautiful daughter born via IVF method. She adds “Although the procedure requires dedication and is pricey it is worth a try and it’s not the end of the world”

*names have been changed.

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