It might be time to stop raising a #superkid

My daughter is now 13 years old and so far, my daughter has gone for Abacus mental math classes, ballet, kathak, tap dance, piano, Indian classical music, Western vocal, bharatanatyam, art, value education classes (free class that she signed up by herself), Balavihar, public speaking, Kumon math classes, Hindi tuition, tennis, soccer, basketball, roller skating, swimming, skiing … probably there is a class or two that I may have forgotten to add to that list.In the early childhood days of my daughter’s life, we lived in Minnesota. I was a stay-at-home mum and my husband had a job that involved travelling for about four days a week. Minnesota is one of the coldest places in the US to live in. Some days it is THE coldest place on earth (according to news reports). So once kids come home from school, there is pretty much nothing to do except watch TV and stay indoors because it is inhumanly cold to consider playing outside. If your child had to play you have to fix a play date with someone and then drive your kid to that person’s house all fully clothed with gloves, hats, jackets and shoes. So, in this situation, it seemed to make a lot of sense to me to enrol my daughter in some fun classes that would give her exposure to different things instead of desperately trying to set up play dates (which I also did) or just watch TV. Staying indoors can also be maddening in the gloomy weather. So the classes gave us a purpose to get out and also see other human beings. But if I had to be really honest with myself, I did want my daughter to sample all that America had to offer and figure out what really captured her fancy.

kids feel bore to play indoor games all the time - ZenParent

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I notice that when my kids have nothing to do there is always a tendency to reach for the TV remote or video games or the iPad. Of course, I do love it when they just get out of the house and play outside with other children, which I do encourage a lot. No, I am not trying to produce a super kid here. Far from it. I do not believe it is possible to raise a super kid because to be an expert in something, you need to invest a lot of hours in it and it is not possible to spread yourself thin. After years of experimenting, we have come to the conclusion that music is her forte- even more than dance. Now that she is 13, we have to make some decisions: let go of classes that are not adding much value, and pursue the ones that delight her. I wanted to provide my daughter every opportunity to sample the many options in life. And I did my best: With a toddler in tow, ploughing through the snowy weather of Minnesota (as did many other moms!). So far, I have to say that besides the Math and Hindi lessons (Imperatives of the education system), there is not a single class that my daughter did not enjoy, or at least, we never forced her to continue if she did not care for it (She tried all the sporting activities and concluded that she does not like anything other than swimming and skiing). My philosophy is to be the parent that did everything in their power to give their child an exposure to as many things as possible so that finally they could zero in on their passion and I hope that is how my daughter would feel when she becomes a mother and looks back on her childhood!

indian girl wants to do skiing - Zenparent

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