Is your kid ordinary? Good!

I was reading this blog called “What if All I Want is A Mediocre Life?” It was quite an interesting read where the author talks about how she craves a simple, slow life and does not desire to run any faster to acquire the larger trappings of life and it made me think about the push for excellence. If we think about what we want for our kids, most of us would like to be politically correct and say, “happiness”- What we really want for our kids is, “The best educational degree. The highest paying job. The big house. The fancy car. The fanciest wedding. The best spouse. ……..”. The push for bigger, better, best.

In her article about desiring mediocrity, the author brings forth a powerful perspective that, what if I do not care to run as fast, to sacrifice my personal life so much, to give up family time, to give up personal hobbies for that “BEST” which everybody is striving for? Am I a bad person to be okay with mediocrity?

Respect today is about how much you have and how much have you accomplished? Does anyone ever ask you at a party about how happy you are? They ask you about what car you drive or where you work or want your visiting card to look at your designation…. so much emphasis on the trappings.

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I just want my kids to be NORMAL! But what is normal?  I read this fascinating quote: Normal is getting dressed in clothes that you buy for work, driving through traffic in a car that you are still paying for, in order to get to a job that you need so you can pay for the clothes, car and the house that you leave empty all day in order to afford to live in it.

Is this what our lives have become? The constant push for something more? What do we really want for our kids?

Children are committing suicide these days because they did not score as well as they should have to get into the college of their dreams. Society has pressured them into believing that those admissions are the end of the world.  Some colleges are admitting candidates who have only scored 99% in board exams. Everybody from students to CEOs are on the treadmill.

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The balancing act is what we need to constantly enforce in our children. The striving to be the best they can, but the self-assurance that everybody has a place under the sun. The fine balance between striving for excellence but accepting that mediocrity is what most of life is about even if social media would like us to believe otherwise. This is possible when we communicate unconditional love to our children. When we don’t make them feel that our love for them will depend on how hard they work, what they achieve and how well they execute the goals that have been designed for them.

 

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