If your husband does these 10 things, he’s the BEST father ever

Nurturing comes naturally to moms. But for dads a totally different story. They have to get used to their partners growing bellies and their new role. And with everything being so close and personal to the mom doesn’t make it any easier for the dad to bond with the baby. So, kudos are in order if your husband has managed to do some or all of these 10 things to bond with the baby-

  • 1. He makes time to spend with his kids

    But wait.

    Though this sounds good, in reality it isn’t enough.

    There are millions of good fathers out there who want to spend time with their kids more than anything. So what? Wanting to spend time with the kids does nothing for them. Children still miss out on all that comes from having a relationship with Dad if he only wants to spend time with them.

    The best father is different. He will do anything to make time for his kids. He won’t settle for just wanting to spend time with them.

  • 2. He not only talks but also listens to his kids

    The best father listens to his kids about anything. If it’s important to them, then it’s important to him. Children sometimes tell Dad things they don’t want to tell Mom. The opposite is also true.

    So, when a dad listens to his kids, he brings an additional element of trust into his family.

  • 3. He supports his kids in their extracurricular activities

    This simple act of love means the world to children. It’s one thing to have Mom come to an event, but it’s a completely different story when Dad shows up.

  • 4. He actively helps make major decisions that affect his kids

    Your husband is the best father if he actively helps you make big decisions that affect your children. This means he doesn’t just lazily sit by and say you should decide everything because you alone “know what’s best for the kids.”

    He understands that detached behavior like this only damages your marriage and ability as parents.

    The best kind of father talks openly with you and your children about important decisions. He plays a central role in helping to determine what’s best for his family. He does not try to passively coach from the sidelines.

  • 5. He likes to be home more than he likes to be at work

    No father’s job, no matter how well it pays, is worth losing his kids over.

    Prominent educator and religious leader Harold Lee said, “The most important work you will ever do will be within the walls of your own home.”

  • 6. He does the hard things, not just the easy things

    The best fathers will mop up puke. Of course they won’t like it, but they’ll do it. They’ll also help change diapers, stay home with sick kids, make sack lunches and do all of the other mundane tasks that come with being a parent.

    Saying “no” is one of the hardest things great fathers do. Unlike many other fathers, the best dads don’t turn Mom into the “bad cop.” They don’t rely on her to always be the onr who says no to the kids staying out late, wearing a certain outfit, or getting that new phone all of their friends have.

    The best dad won’t just do the easy things while leaving all the other hard and messy things up to his wife. He will man up and embrace those less glamorous parts of being a dad.

  • 7. He treats his kids with respect and doesn’t expect perfection

    The best dad doesn’t expect his kids to be perfect or behave like full-grown adults. He understands kids are kids.

  • 8. He helps his kids with their homework

    It is no small moment when a child asks his or her dad for homework help. It is in these situations when Dad can either make or break his child’s perspective on school and the importance of education.

    If your husband is the best father, then he takes the time to sit down with his kids and help them learn. He doesn’t just say, “Go ask your mom.”

    He also supports your efforts in encouraging your kids to finish their homework before they have fun with friends, watch TV or play on their devices.

  • 9. He shows his kids physical affection

    It’s important for children to experience this aspect of love from both parents, not just from the mother alone.

  • 10. He makes sure his kids know how much he loves his wife

    No man is a great father until his kids understand the deep love he has for their mother. Kids need to frequently see that their dad loves their mom. This creates a strong foundation for children’s healthy development and will leave a lasting imprint on their own future relationships.

    The best dad never abuses his wife -the mother of his children – physically, emotionally or verbally. Though he won’t always agree with you (which is actually a good thing), he will give you the dignified respect you deserve. This is because he knows you have given him what makes him happiest in life: his family.

    Thank you, good fathers, for all you do. The world needs more men like you.

This article originally appeared on www.familyshare.com

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