How my son taught me patience

Here’s something I’ve mulled over and I think is appropriate when it comes to patience – Patience is like the cream on top of the milk. Some of us have more of it, some of us less. Some of us may not have it all. It runs dry really quickly once you dip into it. But it helps to cultivate it. Especially when it comes to our kids. I’ve been distracted, busy at work and an awful mom some times over this past month to my 4-year-old. But he’s not changed the way he looks at me, the way he worships the ground I walk on and the way he gives me his undivided attention every single time. And I think I’ve learned a lot more from him than I have taught to him. He’s like a 4-year-old sage who’s sorted. Here’s how I have learned patience from him –

  1. Unconditional love –

His love for me isn’t based on the stupid things I base my love for him – whether he finished his food, if he played with the other kids and all other sorts of silly things adults are concerned about. He loves me. Period. I could’ve slapped him; I could’ve ignored him. But he’s so secure in his knowledge that I truly love him and it simply does not change how he treats me. I’ve learned that unconditional love is real. And only your child can give you that. Not your husband. Not your soul mate. Your child – he gets it. I’ve learned love from his patience.

  1. Spend time on your passions –

My son, who can’t sit still for 5 minutes when I want him to practice his cursive writing can sit for hours, I kid you not, with stuff he truly loves – his Legos, his trains and his model airport. He can spend hours perfecting the way the tracks have to go to include all the main structures he’s got – 10s of bridges, stations, signal crossings and what not. I’ve learned that passion is a result of his patience. popa42bh5w


  1. Never never never give up –

And he’s so content to try and try again till he’s succeeded. He can go through the same thing millions of times till he’s got it exactly right. And he does it with a level of passion that would put a professional architect to shame. He spends a whole hour trying to make the perfect block of toast from PlayDoh to give me as “breakfast”. I wish I spent as much time actually making his breakfast. I’ve learned application and perfection in his patience.

  1. Delayed gratification –

He’s not greedy or selfish and he total gets delayed gratification. We’ve promised him some airplane accessory for his birthday which is in July. He doesn’t understand the concept of the length of a year yet. He doesn’t constantly ask us when he’s getting it. He’s confident that we’ve made a promise we are going to keep. I’ve learned the trust in his patience too. They say that a mother is born when she gives birth to her child. They never really tell you how much your child is going to teach you. I can’t wait for what is in store for the future. What have you learned from your child? Do share with our parenting community.