Have only ONE child? This is how that affects them later in life

For whatever reasons, mostly because most famlies are 2-income households, the cost of living has significantly risen as have educational costs. Many children nowadays are growing up as single children in nuclear families. This article on Romper by Samantha Darby addresses this issue.

She says that it's no secret that your child's birth order can influence their personality. But it's not based on biology, according to Parents. While it makes sense that the oldest child would become a leader, it has more to do with the role you impart on your child (without realizing it), as well as their place in the sibling line-up and how it affects their behavior. Which then begs the question of how an only child who has to don all these hats without other siblings to contend with or to divert energy deal with it. Does an only child take on all of the traits of siblings? Are they both peace-makers and manipulative to get their way? Do they learn how to share? Do they grow up thinking the world revolves around them?

Contrary to what self-claimed experts might tell you, only children don't grow up to be raging lunatics incapable of social interaction or sharing. In fact, research has found that your child may flourish as an only child. According to Psychology Today, only children often have high self-esteem and feel that they are important to the world because they were their parents' only child and therefore were lavished with attention, praise, and affection. Only children tend to think well of themselves, and as with any person, this could lead to an only child becoming arrogant or self-centered according to Parents.

Being the center of your world doesn't mean your child only has high self-esteem either. Psychology Today also notes that only children often enjoy being the center of attention (because they are used to being the center of your world), are sensitive to disapproval and very self-critical, and can value privacy because they grew up under a microscope as your only child.

If you're worried that your child will fit the stereotype of being bossy, aggressive, and always wanting their own way, fear not. Because only children don't have the experience of disagreeing with siblings and fighting with them, they often work hard to be well-liked among their peers and included in group settings. Also, because their voice is always heard at home, they don't feel the need to be the loudest person in the room, or the first in line for something like those who have to compete with siblings.

In short? Only children tend to be just as happy as children who grew up in a house full of siblings. According to The New York Times, many studies have found that only children score just as well as children with siblings in the areas of contentment, emotional stability, popularity, generosity, and social participation.

Their behavior is bound to change based on how you parent your only child. If you give them everything they ask for, because they are your only child, it can lead to selfish, possessive tendencies. If you fear letting them go, because they are your only child, they may have a hard time with authority as they grow. But like with any child, if you nurture and love them regardless of their place in a sibling line-up, they will grow up to be just as well-adjusted as their peers with siblings.

To read Samantha’s article on Romper, click here - https://www.romper.com/p/how-being-only-child-affects-your-kid-later-in-life-11907