Dealing with top five fears of children(2 to 5 years old)

In a child's world, especially the young ones, most of the things he or she come across will be unfamiliar to them. It is quite natural to worry or fear while they have to try something new, something that they've never experienced before, something that is an unknown.You have to think about how less information your baby has about his surroundings and events and how limited are their analyzing skills, before wondering how silly your baby's worries and fears are. Studies and surveys conducted on this topic show that the vast majority of children struggles few worries and fears during every stage of their life. Another interesting fact that surfaced during the research is that most of the children belonging to same age group share more or less same worries and fears just like, we, the grown-ups also share some common fears and anxiety, depending on our age. 

Let the child be two, twelve or sixteen years old, he or she is unlikely to be in a fear-free or worry-free zone. As a child grows-up, they eventually overcome the old fears one by one (even though in some child one or two childhood fears and worries are found to stick on to them for relatively long periods. I personally know a few people who are still having a couple of childhood fears like Fear of dark places) and new fears start to take their place.

Here we are listing top five fears that the majority of the children falls under age group 2 to 5 encounters with. Remember the order and intensity of these worries may vary with the child. However,  at least two of these fears and worries are certainly experienced by every child at least once during their preschool age.

1. Fear of separation from parents:

By the time the child turns seven to eight months, they always make sure you are near them may be upset or cry when they cannot see you. It's normal for toddlers to become anxious or insecure when their parents, especially mothers leave them home with caretaker and go out. Remember, they are not big enough to think that you just went to the office or for a personal appointment and that you will come back soon.

How to deal:

Leave your child with someone caring for brief amounts of time at first, assuring him that you would return soon and that he need not worry.  Say goodbye, kiss him and leave fast without turning back frequently. The person you leave him with should be someone he is comfortable with and feels safe around. This ensures that your child feels secure with the separation.

2. Fear of loud noises

There are two basic types of noise fears in children.

Firstly, a fear of sudden noises such as that of a bursting balloon or a door slamming shut, that can startle the child.

The latter is fear of noises that are less sudden and much more expected. Even so, a child may cover because of the noise of a blender or a vacuum cleaner.

How to deal:

  • It would be advisable to warn the child before use of appliances like a vacuum cleaner or blender, as the child is likely to feel less fear if the noise is already expected.
  • Make the children feel less vulnerable and powerless over the noise by letting them touch and feel such electronic appliances, and maybe even turn it on and off a few times.
  • When going to a very noisy event (like fireworks), provide your child with earplugs to muffle the noise.
  • Allow your child to make loud noises themselves so that they will be more used to it rather than feel afraid.
  • Help your child reduce anxiety by making them understand what all specifically makes certain loud noises and why they do so.

3. Fear of darkness:

Lots of kids are afraid of the dark. Let it be a giant in the closet or a monster under the bed, the fear of the dark tends to evolve around the time children are old enough to have a sense of imagination but not wise enough to distinguish fantasy from reality, usually around the ages of 2 or 3.

How to deal:

Convince your child to stop fearing darkness by telling how much you love it, as it helps you get enough rest. However, do not make the mistake of looking under the bed, as it generates the idea that a monster may be there after all. Rather than that, remind them how monsters are fictional beings and do not exist in the real world.

4. Fear of animals:

Many children love animals and have a special bond with their pets. Some children, however, are not as comfortable around animals.Even common animals that most of us encounter on a daily basis can trigger fear in a child.The fear of animals most often develops naturally at around age 3. It usually vanishes as the child grows and even they may demand pets in the near future. However, if not deal properly, it can persist for a long period and interfere with his daily activities like going out to play.

How to deal:

Never tease the child playfully about the fear or ignore his or her fear. Also, never force the child to touch the animal. Ask him why he feels scared of the animal. Find ways to give your child positive experiences with the type of animal he afraid of. Tell him positive stories. Slowly let him meet the animal he is afraid of in your presence for a short while. You can even touch the animal and ensure the child, it's not a monster to be afraid of.

5. Fear of strangers:

Not all babies are afraid of strangers, but most are for a while. Many babies develop a fear of strangers, generally sometime between 5 and 12 months of age. Although this fear is reduced by the time they are two years old, it may still persist a lot longer in some cases.

How to deal:

Avoid pushing your child to meet new people at all costs as this can have an adverse effect on your child. Explain to him how to meet new people and how to keep going out of his comfort zone. Your child can feel more secure with a stranger at home, and so this is a good way to introduce him to new people. Once your child feels less uncomfortable in front of strangers, keep introducing him to new people.