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You remember how difficult it was for your parents to get you to have a routine? If you’re the kind who believes in chaos, you should skip this article and move on to looking at devaintart.com or something. But if you believe in routine, and are struggling to create one for your child, read on. Because it is established beyond doubt that a daily routine and rhythm followed early in life is important for children to develop a sense of security and discipline without having to fuss about the same as they grow older.

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Why stress on maintaining a rhythm?
Take a look around. Your answer is right here. Everything in nature follows a rhythm. Imagine if the sun did not rise one fine day. Or if our heart beat faster than normal. Would it not create havoc and send signals of peril? We are a part of nature and the law of rhythm applies to us as well. The child in the womb is very much accustomed to the rhythmic sound of her mother’s heartbeat, which remains consistent throughout (except n moments of anxiety). This is the consistency that needs to be a part of their daily life when they are out of the womb.

In her book, You are Your Child’s First Teacher, Rahima Baldwin Dancy explains this beautifully: “Because the young child is so centered in the body and in imitation, rhythm is one of the most important keys to discipline. It both guides the child’s life by creating good habits and helps avoid arguments and problems. A regular lifestyle, like the pattern of life in the womb, offers a stable environment during the rapid growth and changes in rhythm of the body during childhood. Children provided with this regular life feel confident about their world and are not concerned by uncertainty about when the next thing will happen.”

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Going about the daily routine
Dancy stresses the point that rhythm in home life can also help to calm a nervous or difficult child by turning the child’s life into a series of events in which she participates, and from which she gains a new sense of security. The importance of regular meal times and bed times cannot be overlooked as these subtly orient the child to a natural feeling for the passing of time.

Take into consideration the day you decide to oversleep. The entire day that follows, then goes for a toss. From a delayed breakfast to getting through daily chores in a rush, there is anxiety felt throughout the day. The child who is yet coming to terms with its earthly experience is in a worse place when you decide to skip following a rhythm. No matter how cruel it may sound to you, ensure that you do not allow your child to oversleep. Waking her up at a fixed hour will help you plan the child’s day well. From giving her a proper breakfast to engaging her in activities that alternate between physical activities to that which require more of creative input, the day will pass without much effort and fuss. When we cautiously take care of dividing our day this way, it is easy to notice how comfortable and at ease the child is.

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Activities you can engage the child in
Typically, let there be a healthy mix of activities as explained earlier. The energy level needs to be balanced – just as we inhale and exhale when we breathe. Depending on the age of your child and the time she has on her hands, make a plan. Divide the hours well and put up a chart in her room. For creative play, it is encouraging for a child to have your involvement. Divide the days of the week for each major activity like washing, cleaning, creative play, baking etc. This can be a good two-three hour activity for the day. The remaining hours can be divided between other miscellaneous activities: a visit to the park or a walk down the road (if it is not crowded) and learning a musical instrument or singing.

What about vacations you ask?  Take a look at my chart.

TimeActivity
7.30 – 8.00Waking up followed by brushing, bathing, change of clothes
8.00 – 9.00Breakfast and chit chatting with the child talking about his dreams, sharing a story etc. You can involve your child in breakfast preparation allowing him to be with you in the kitchen
9.00 – 10.00 a.m.Spending time at the society park or a park in the vicinity / meeting a friend or relative
10.00 a.m. – 11.30 noonReturning home and change of clothes if they are soiled. Fruit time and letting the child spend time with himself. They usually roam around in the house post a physical activity finding solace in something that would calm them down. You can perhaps give them grains to sort or ask them to water the plants etc.
11.30 a.m. to 12.30 p.m. Lunch time followed by 15-20 mins of play time indoors
1.00 p.m. – 2.00 p.m.A quick nap. This is also the time you will get for yourself to finish any pending chores which cannot have his involvement
2.00 p.m. – 4.00 p.m.The main activity for that chosen day (baking / cleaning / washing etc.) Since this shall involve a lot of mental and physical work of running around within the house, be careful to choose an activity she enjoys. Please also include giving him snacks / juice within this time period as well
4.00 p.m. – 5.00Coloring / writing / music / clay modeling / doll house etc
5.00 p.m. – 6.00 p.m.Outdoor activity – park or a walk
6.00 p.m. – 6.00 p.m.Returning home and tidying up with a quick shower and change to night clothes
6.00 p.m. – 7. 00 p.m.Dinner time
7.00 p.m. – 8.00 p.m.Story time or allowing the child to just be by himself
8.00 p.m.Lights off! Sleep time.

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Andrea Gambardella, a Waldorf teacher explains it best: “With the young child and the elementary-school student this requirement for an outer structure continues to be vital to growth and emotional well-being. Learning that there is a ‘time for all things’ is a life’s lesson. Now is the time for you to play and do as you will, now for a meal, now for homework, now to prepare for bed.”

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