Being Aware, can help your child

Being aware of your child's unsaid issues- Parenting resources by ZenParent

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Parents today certainly seem to be more involved than the parents of previous generations in the lives of their children. All one has to do is land up at a pre-school sports day event to witness this change.  Most of us (once are kids are not in that age category anymore), can honestly admit that these are one of the most boring events that an adult can participate in. And yet, you will see the parents of today, so proud of their wards, turned up for the event with all digital paraphernalia in place- digital cameras, video cameras- standing on their tippy toes and craning so hard to take the perfect shot of their little child performing the most inane drill. And the joy and pride on their faces is priceless. This is fantastic for the new generation of kids to have parents so doting on them, while not too long ago, fathers struggled to remember whether their 3rd born was in the 4th grade or 5th grade.That being said, with the best of our intentions, many of us are not tuned in to understand the child, when something goes wrong. These are some of the signs that we need to watch for in our children, which might need further investigation to find out if they are being subjected to any kind of abuse.

What to watch out for in children:

  1. Acting out in an inappropriate sexual way with toys or objects
  2. Nightmares, sleeping problems
  3. Becoming withdrawn or very clingy
  4. Becoming unusually secretive
  5. Sudden unexplained personality changes, mood swings and seeming insecure
  6. Regressing to younger behaviours, e.g. bedwetting
  7. Unaccountable fear of particular places or people
  8. Outburst of anger
  9. Changes in eating habits
  10. New adult words for body parts and no obvious source
  11. Talk of a new, older friend and unexplained money or gifts
  12. Self-harm (cutting, burning or other harmful activities)
  13. Physical signs, such as, unexplained soreness or bruises around genitals or mouth, sexually transmitted diseases, pregnancy
  14. Running away
  15. Not wanting to be alone with a particular child or young person

Just any one of those signs is not proof that the child is being abused. However, if any of these behaviours suddenly crop up in your child, it might be time to sit down and have a talk with them and investigate further to make sure that your child is not in danger or can help you  give your child the help that she or he needs at the right time.

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