7 ways to fix rude kid behaviour

As kids grow from toddlers to primary school kids and then tweens, their growth curve is steep. But if you could peep into their brains, you’d be amazed by all that mental development, cognizance and emotional development that’s going on. Coming to terms with all of this is no mean task. So no wonder, sometimes your sweet pre-schooler or developing Tween is super rude. Life with a tween, boy or girl, can be baffling, challenging and a little scary sometimes—but it's also rewarding. It can also be fun to watch their interests and talents emerge as they come into their own.Here are ways to fix it though-1. Maintain Your Parental StatusThis is not the time to try to be your child's friend. Despite appearances to the contrary, she's looking to you to help her get through this confusing stage. Ultimately, she'll take her cues for how to behave from the way that you deal with a given situation.2. Make the boundaries clearYou'll need to come up with some new rules as your tween exercises his growing independence. Start by figuring out what's most important to you, like right and wrong, honesty and grades, and let go of stuff that doesn't matter in the long run-keeping his room neat or wearing clean socks.3. Choose an appropriate punishmentWhen your child is a toddler or pre-schooler—or maybe even as recently as a year ago—you could pretty much get her to do what you wanted with positive reinforcement (praising her for being good, showering her with stickers) and the occasional time-out. With a tween, however, most parents find they have to bring out the big guns; very few older kids are likely to change their behaviour based on, say, the promise of an ice cream cone if they can go a week without stomping around the house.Taking away a favourite activity, like their Kindle or cell phone, is a good punishment, for instance. Whatever you do decide, she warns, follow through. Once you don't do what you say, they'll take total advantage, and you'll lose your upper hand again.4. Reciprocate RespectIt's essential that you remind your child that you're a person, too. Tell them you’re hurt for instance when they say they hate you. At the same time, remember that respect is a two-way street-especially when you start to get caught up in an emotionally charged argument.5. Let Her StewWhen a "discussion" between you and your tween leads to screaming or hysterics (on the part of your kid, of course!), step back and wait for things to calm down. Encouraging your child to take a break from a situation is a good way to defuse high emotions all around.6. Set Aside Some Face TimeTake your child out for breakfast or invite him along to walk the dog, just the two of you. Don't push an agenda, but do let your child lead the conversation, even if he just wants to chatter on about some game you’re unaware of. You never know where the conversation might lead—and even if it goes nowhere, you'll get points for listening.7. Fan the Home FiresAs much as your child wants (and needs) to begin separating from Mom and Dad, he's still a kid and wants (and needs) to have a safety net. So provide one. Designate one evening as "Family Night, " meaning no friends, no activities, no computers, no texting and no video games. The entire family can hang out, cook together and play games, with no outside influence.This article is modified from Parenting.com and can be found here - http://www.parenting.com/article/7-ways-to-fix-ru