6 ways to manage a child misbehaving at school

misbehaving girlChildren sometimes are not able to communicate everything they feel verbally. That is when it manifests itself in behavioural changes. So, if a kid is misbehaving suddenly at school, it becomes important to look closely at his daily activities and try to decipher the reason for his/her misbehaviour and then address the problem itself.

Some of the reasons why children misbehave at school could be:

  • They are seeking attention
  • They want to show that they are independent
  • Their emotional needs are not being met
  • They are imitating others
  • They are testing the limits
  • They think that is the way to get things done the way they want
  • They are not able to control their emotions
  • The most serious one, they might have some psychological issues moody adolescent

Do not hurry to punish: When it comes to your notice that the child is misbehaving at school, do not just jump up and punish the child. That will make the child feel guilty and ashamed and they might get more difficult to handle. So, instead of punishing, try to find out the underlying cause for the behaviour. Once that has been identified, offering a solution might be easier.

Have a Conversation: Children usually express themselves verbally when they feel loved and safe. So, give your child enough of support and love and ask positive questions. How do they think the school should be? What can be done , for school to be more fun! etc. The answers can give parents a clue to the problems that the child might be facing.  Refrain from threats. Be gentle, firm and assuring.

Cater to your child aptly: Sometimes when parenting, parents themselves are caught between trying to appease a child when it is throwing a tantrum or yelling at them to stop throwing a tantrum!! Both are ineffective! Both ways, the child is gaining attention through unpleasant behaviour. It is therefore important that you stay calm, tell the child that you are ready to talk to them when they are done with bad behavior and give the child a chance to calm down. Then, get down to their eye level and find out what the problem is.

Give the child enough time and independence: Observe what your child can do independently and allow them to do so. You can extend help whenever they need. Give them enough choices that make them feel they have control over their life and a sense of independence. Any quality time spent with kids help them stay calm.

Have a balanced routine: This is a very basic requirement. But many of us in our busy lives tend to slip up on this. Make sure the child eats on time, sleeps on time and has enough time to play with family and friends. Sometimes, missing any of these basic needs also causes the child to get cranky and lead to misbehaviour.

Get medical help/counseling: If the child continues to misbehave even after all your efforts, you may seek medical help/counselling. Psychological issues need to be addressed at an early stage for quick correction.

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