6 things you never thought would spice up your sex life

Marriage is hard work. Sure, initially it might seem breezy and fun when you just can’t keep your hands off each other, but as the years pile on, the sexual attraction fizzles out and the bills, the daily chores, children and age seem to make it worse. But hey, all isn’t lost yet. And even though the crazy urge to jump your partner’s bones may have mellowed out a bit, it doesn’t mean that you can’t see fireworks in the bedroom anymore!

So if you’re in the mood to put the fire back in your sex life, it’s time to try out some of these tips that you may have not tried yet. Guaranteed to spice up things, for sure.

Lots of PDA   

Yes, lots of it! Public display of affection is sexy, ok? And we aren’t talking holding hands (although that’s not so bad) but some butterflies-inducing moves. Still clueless? How about, the next time you two are out, just lightly place a hand on her waist — it ain’t vulgar but it is really intimate and quite a turn on for women. What else? The next time you’re out for a movie, just gently caress her neck and feel her heat up! Public displays of affection shows him or her that you love being seen with them...and that’s always a turn on, right?

Flatter your partner in front of others

Nothing makes a woman’s (or a man’s) day like a genuine compliment. And what makes it better? Appreciation in front of others. True story. “Oh, he’s a terrific cook, you should try his pasta!” or “I’ve never seen anyone else solve a sudoku faster than her!”. That’s right, it doesn’t have to be about how great they look, it can be ANYTHING. Flattery doesn’t have to hollow, and when you do it in front of others, it shows your partner they want to flaunt you.

Make each other laugh

Laughter is so, so underrated when it comes to sex. In fact, you’d be surprised at how deeply laughter is connected to sex. Think back for a moment to when you were a teenager, remember how you crushed hard on that boy or girl whose laughter was one of the things you thought was the sexiest you’d ever heard? When you laugh, you let go of stress (same for sex), when you laugh, you lower your inhibitions, you feel closer to that person you’re laughing with and if you’re a couple, there will be these secret jokes that only the two of you know, which makes it even better. It makes you intimate. In fact, laughing together can be one of the best secrets to a great orgasm.

Sneak around

We’ve all done it at some point or the other. Sneaked around with our boyfriends or girlfriends for a kiss here, a touch there. Fun, wasn’t it? So why can’t it be fun now? This one’s especially for the married couples out there who’ve got kids who just won’t leave them alone. Got a kid who’s asleep in the next room? Time for a 10-minute quickie (if it lasts that long!). Or maybe a kid who’s busy watching TV? Hop into the shower with your man and have a go at it. Sneaking around is always fun, whether you are 22 or 42.


Hey, you know how those exotic birds in the Amazonian forests mate? They show off their dance skills! Okay, so we aren’t suggesting that you go buck naked and attach a couple of colourful feathers and have a dance session for your partner (although...why not!). But come on, you’ve watched enough movies to know that close dancing almost always ends up in kissing, if not sex. Dancing is like a mating dance. It’s sensual and exciting because you’re almost there, but not quite. In fact, it’s a foreplay. And you don’t have to be Patrick Swayze to rock it. Just hit play on a slow song, pull your partner close and sway.

Sexy lingerie

Ladies, listen up! If you’d like to crank up the heat and get your man panting after you, this is a no-fail tip. Throw out (temporarily, of course) all those “comfortable, cream and black, supporting” underwear and go sexy-lingerie shopping. Pick out some colourful, lacy (maybe even racy!) lingerie and maybe do an “oops, my bra’s showing!”. Ding, ding, ding! Sex-o-meter up! Ok, it’s corny or whatever, but you’ll thank us when it works.