4 ways when non-verbal communication strengthens your bond with your child

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Many of us are conscious of what we are saying to our children, however, how many of us are aware of what we are “not saying” to our children ?  While words do convey a lot, non-verbal communication is also equally important . We might be conveying a whole of things that our tongues are not saying- and that is what we mean when we say we get a “vibe” from people. Children are quick to pick up on vibes. They can sense when you are worried, tensed , anxious, disinterested or pissed off with them. What are all the things we are “not saying” to our children?

1. Eye Contact : When children are little, we are always looking down on them and it is not a friendly position of communication. It is easier to bond with a child and get them to listen when you get down to their level. So if you want your preschooler to really listen to you, kneel down , look into their eyes and get their attention. You will be amazed at the difference it makes.

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2. Close the Gap : Children do not get it when you are shouting from afar. They understand best when you are a couple of feet away from them. Standing in the kitchen and yelling at them will get you no results as you already may have experienced.   Instead, walk up to them and communicate what you want. Or, have them come to the kitchen if you cannot leave that stove unattended and talk to them. Save your throat and your frustration.

3. Touch :  touch is an important non-verbal communication. When your child is talking, a gentle touch on the arm can give them an encouraging sign that what they are saying is important to you. These encouraging gestures build a bond with your child. Hug your child before they leave for school or first thing after they come home. Some of us may not have been raised that way, but it is a habit that can be developed.

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4. Set that Gadget down:  Children talk up a storm sometimes and when we are caught up in our laptop or phone, we tend to slip into saying “Mmm mmmm” all the while staring at your gadget and pretending to listen to your child. They might be little, but they are not stupid. They will get the message that you are not interested . Set that gadget down, turn to your child fully and give them your attention.

Words are important. But silent communication is even stronger , without even our knowledge. Let’s be aware of what kind of messages we may be unconsciously sending our children  through our gestures, body language and attitude which may convey a louder meaning than our words ever can.

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